Teachers: How to incorporate meditation into the classroom

Special Back to School article from my sister-in-law, Camille:

What began as a classroom management gimmick has become one of the most important lessons I teach.

Ten years ago, as an uncertain and impressionable student teacher, I adopted every tip my mentor had to offer, modeling my style of teaching, my classroom policies and my lesson plans -- even my opening letter -- around her example. Included in my flattering imitation was co-opting the concept of Stillness.


At the beginning of each class, I ring chimes three times, instructing students that by the third chime, they should be in their seats, eyes closed, their bodies “internally and externally still.” Over the first two weeks of classes, we build up the practice from 30 seconds to three minutes. At the end of Stillness, I strike a bell and say, “Good morning.”

The gimmick is that my students begin class silently, attentive and focused on me. I don’t need to shout, “Okay, everyone in his/her seat! Class is starting.” I don’t have to compete with their friends’ gossip, their most recent text messages, their scrambling to copy homework. Admittedly, I still appreciate this focusing effect, and my students appreciate it too: by the end of September, they all offer a “good morning” back to me (or delight in correcting me with a “good AFTERNOON”). It’s a civilized way to begin class in what can sometimes be an uncivil environment.

The real benefit, however, comes from the space Stillness provides in our otherwise frenetic and noisy lives. At the beginning of the year, when I explain the concept to students, I focus on what we all can gain from the routine:
We all need some space, some silence to quiet our minds and refocus on English class. I want to be present fully to you, and your classmates need you to be present to them in order for our class to work effectively.

Say you have a fight with a friend in the hallway. I want you to let that go. Don’t bring it in here to poison your experience. Let’s say I had a particularly frustrating student the period before you all came in? Would you want me to take it out on you, my bad mood bleeding into the next class?

Stillness is your time, your personal time, when no one expects anything of you, when you don’t have to spout information or pretend to be happy or play some role in this high school drama. You can be in your head, or completely out of it. Think about clouds passing, a placid lake, or just breathe and think of nothing at all.
I spend very little time teaching them how to do it, aside from tips to avoid snickering (eyes closed – not looking at pals, hands in lap, breathing instead of holding in laughter); I offer some suggestions about focusing on their nostrils or counting to four with each inhalation and exhalation. About once a week, I play calming music, something that has a regular beat or guitar strumming that can help guide their breath. Occasionally – after the first few months of class – I lead them in some visualizations or relaxation techniques.

Of course, some students remain dubious. “Mrs. Bernstein, there is no way I can sit still. I have ADD! I just can’t do it!”

I always acknowledge that the practice is difficult, defusing their resistance by admitting that I struggle as well, and encouraging their perseverance by refusing to give up the routine. I do not allow students to hijack Stillness from the rest of us. And somehow it works.

I teach in a public school. You might wonder if the practice has caused controversy. Certainly, my first two years were fraught with worry that a student might misinterpret the practice to his parents, and I doggedly corrected students who called it “karma” or “some weird Buddhist crap.” A number of parents over the years have thanked me for teaching their kids “an important life skill,” and a few offered, preemptively, to defend me should a problem arise.

The school and community have so supported the practice that I was recently awarded a grant through the local Education Foundation to run a meditation group at the high school.

Students have told me repeatedly that they come to depend on Stillness. On days I am particularly rushed, I might launch into some directions, but they always pull me back: “You forgot ‘peace time!” or “What about Stillness, Mrs. B?” or, my favorite, “Can we do 20 minutes today? I really need it.”

In recent years, I’ve broadened our practice, allowing every six weeks or so an extended period of 20 minutes, sometimes silent, sometimes with a guided full-body scan. And as a reward at the end of the year, I’ve invited my sister-in-law, a yoga teacher, to lead each class in some soothing poses.

Students have told me that they use stillness on the bus before football games, in the middle of the lunchroom when someone “said something stupid that made me want to punch him out,” and at night when they can’t sleep. They regularly download the songs I play or make me cds of music they think will work well. They return after graduation to say they’ve taken yoga or mediation classes at college. The biggest compliment I’ve ever received was when a tough guy – you know the type, too cool for school and always ready to challenge authority – re-emerged after a 20-minute session mumbling dreamily, “Mrs. B., you have the best voice.”

His friends razzed him mercifully, but he was stalwart in defending Stillness: “Dude, shut up! I am so chillaxed after that. We should have a whole class of just her talking about that ‘blue healing breath’ or whatever that thing is.”

Camille Napier Bernstein is a high school English teacher in Natick, Massachusetts. She recently completed the UMass Medical School’s eight-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction course, created by Jon Kabat-Zinn. Publicly, she’d like to thank (again) her mentor, Lucile Burt, for teaching her the “gimmick.”

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There’s never a good time…

July 2006, I announced I was resigning as Director of Global Controls for Iron Mountain, Inc. During the 3 weeks from announcing I was leaving corporate life to open a yoga studio, until my last day of “work”, I learned more about my colleagues than the during the 3 years I’d worked and travelled with them. I learned their dreams, their secret hobbies and their crutches – and not because I asked.

Here’s how the conversations would go:

Me: Mind if I pop my head in to share some news with you?
[knocking on a colleague’s office door]

Colleague: Sure

Me: Well, I’ve made a big decision. I’ve decided to expand my yoga teaching and open a yoga studio in Roslindale….so I’m going to be leaving Iron Mountain.
[My heart is pounding as I actually say the words out loud. Because I’m scared this may be a huge mistake, I’m scared that I’m throwing away a great career, and I’m scared that people will think I’ve lost my mind]

Colleague: Oh my God! Congratulations. I’m so jealous. I wish I could do that. I mean [speaking excitedly] I wouldn’t open a yoga studio, but I’ve always wanted to open a kayak tour company, I just haven’t done it because first we bought the house, we’ve been trying to have kids, I’m finishing getting my MBA…..the timing just hasn’t been right…but maybe someday….[their eyes are bright, but sad]
It was incredible…without exception, and I mean literally every person I told one-on-one that I was resigning, shared their “I’d love to…take guitar lessons, play in a jazz band, open a jewelry shop, design kids bibs, write a book, work in construction…” with me.

And then followed telling me what they’d love to do, again, without exception, by saying “the timing just hasn’t been right”.

I don’t believe there are many “always” or “nevers” in life, but this I know:

The timing will likely never feel “right” to make a major change. And it will always be scary to leave the known for the unknown.
And there is nothing wrong with staying with something safe and secure that works for you.

If however, you are someone with a persistent, restless desire to change your life, you’ll probably only be able to suppress it for a period of time before the desire starts sending you louder and louder messages in the form of stress, health issues or depression.

Our bodies don’t know how to lie. So be aware of these signals.  For now, just allow yourself to notice the restlessness and the signals your body may be sending you.  Let yourself sit with these experiences - uncomfortable as it may feel.  The feelings may pass, or you may decide to act on them.  Just notice for the time being.

For today, I’ll leave you with this:

It is possible to make big shifts in where you devote your time and energy. There is risk involved. And it is hard work to chart a unique path. Financial realities cannot be ignored. And not all of your regular support network will support you if you make a drastic change. The timing will never be right.

And…I’ve yet to meet a person (myself included) who has completely changed their life(style) and regrets having done so.

I’ll talk more in future posts about the process of life transformations and share more stories of what I’ve experienced and learned from others. For now, let's just be open to the idea that it is possible for YOU to listen to that restlessness and then to act on it.

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Seeking Guest Yoga Bloggers

I've received a flurry of great suggestions lately for topics to cover on the blog.  Yoga with horses, yoga for sadness, integrating yoga with Ayurveda, Anusara yoga, working with resistance to your practice....and 68 more thought provoking topics, all suggested by you!

I'm excited to start blogging away on your ideas this fall.  But alas...I'm certainly not the authority on all topics yoga!  Not by a long shot.  So I'm asking for your help, by beginning a NEW Guest Yoga Blogger Series.

The first two topics are:
Yoga instructor burn-out - what helps?
Submission Deadline:  September 4, 2009
 
(FYI...this was the most frequently requested topic...I hear ya!)
Ashtanga Yoga - What's at all about?  Can I be an Ashtangi even if I can't get into crazy postures?
Submission Deadline:  September 11, 2009
Admin stuff:
  • Beginning the second week of September, I'm going to post one guest post a week.  
  • I'll announce the topics 2 weeks ahead of time.  
  • Maximum length is 1,000 words
  • Practical, readable, unique ideas will be selected.  All submissions must be publish-ready (i.e. not in need of editing).  Please, no pictures unless it's directly relevant to content.
  • Please send all submissions to me by email, florianyoga@gmail.com in MS Word attachments or in the body of your email
  • Provide a brief bio and any weblinks you'd like published with your article
  • If your post is selected, you will be notified IN ADVANCE of my publishing your post in order for me to confirm that I have your permission to publish your work.
  • If your post is not selected, you will be notified by email.  And please don't give up on submitting here or elsewhere! 
  • Deadline is 8 pm EST on submission deadline - no exceptions, it's not fair to the people who get them in on time
I hope you enjoy sharing with the Florian Yoga Community as much as I know I'm going to enjoy learning more about your practices.

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"If only my vacation were over" - Learn to enjoy your vacation

While many of us yearn for summer vacations to extend forever...other can't wait for our vacations end.  Don't be bashful if you're one of the latter, you are not alone...
Owning a yoga retreat center on St. John, results in my unintentionally observing people "on vacation". Here are a few common threads of what I've learned about vacationers and some tools from our yoga practice to help improve the enjoyment of our vacations.
What happens to our bodies, minds and our behaviors when we are on vacation?
  1. Personality traits are amplified. Meaning that if you are naturally a routinized person, your need for routine/structure/plans will be even more pronounced out of your natural environment. This can result in excessive or obsessive planning, map reading, and discussion of plans. Conversely, if you are prone to minimal organization and planning in your routines, you may find that it is tough to mobilize and/or that your vacation takes you on all sorts of unexpected adventures.
  2. Bodies go into shock. Shock can be stiffness, muscle soreness, stomach unrest, bug bites, etc. The plane/car rides alone can be enough to do this to our bodies, in addition to a significant increase or decrease in your regular level of activity. Plus it can be tough to maintain our mind/body and exercise practices when we are away from familiar settings and schedules.
  3. "Out of element" challenges are exacerbated. More people that I've observed seem to feel tested and challenged by differences in environments. And they put a lot of pressure on themselves to adapt, try new things, and be easy going. This pressure can be stressful for all involved. do you find yourself feeling like you "should" cram in every activity, you "should" relax, etc.
  4. You are more high-maintenance than you think. I've heard the phrase, "oh, I'm easy on vacation, don't worry about me", from almost every person I've met on day 1 of their vacation. Truthfully, I've only encountered a handful of people whose needs do not impose or encroach their travel companions' experience. This is not bad! This is part of being human. You'll know you are encroaching on other people, if you hear yourself uttering, "can you just....", "can we just..." more than 3 times a day. Usually "just" doing anything results in someone else having to change their plans.
These are my observations after being around families, extended families, stranger, friends, and couples for extended periods of time while they are on vacation.
How can tools from our yoga practice help us enjoy our vacations more? (and perhaps become more fun travel companions)
  1. Just like you don't enjoy every posture in your yoga practice, it's OK to not enjoy every part of our vacation. So take the pressure off and acknowledge that just like in our practice, there will be pleasurable moments, challenging moments, unpleasant moments and humorous moments. And all we can do is breathe through each of these moments. Vacations are not meant to by 100% idyllic - just like what happens on our yoga mat, vacations are a microcosm of our everyday lives.
  2. Balance how much of your "regular" routine comes with you on your vacation. If you don't allow yourself to adapt your 2 hour yoga practice in your perfect yoga space to the cramped hotel room where you have little time to practice, you may end up very disappointed. Allow your expectations to be OPEN, not set on keeping all routines constant. Similarly, DO bring some elements of your home routine with you on vacation - like making time for a little exercise perhaps instead of your regular 1 hour on the stationary bike.
  3. Remember that just like in our yoga practice....transitions in and out of postures are every bit as much of the practice as the asana itself. So too is the transition (i.e. travel) TO and FROM your vacation destination. So be open to what happens during this travel time, and suspend judgment and expectations....when we expect travel to be too smooth or too miserable, we are often faced the blow of life not meeting our expectations. Just let what happens happen, it's ALL part of the journey. Yeah, yeah, it's still annoying when our luggage is lost, but that too is part of life....
  4. Adjust expectations about your problems....our "problems", "stresses", "baggage" are part of us. They are not geographically contained. So if you are expecting your problems to stay at home, you may be setting yourself up for a let down. Let your problems come with you and as the Buddhists might say, "welcome them in for a cup of tea (or a pina colada)" and acknowledge that they are with you. But perhaps practice NOTICING when your problems creep up on you, when you are ruminating, and work on coming back to the present moment.
  5. Allow yourself to be high-maintenance...don't fight it. Just acknowledge it, be aware of it, and practice compassion toward those around you for the impact that it might have. Listen to yourself talk, but don't overly censor yourself because denial and self-recrimination, will only make you uncomfortable and annoy those around you. It's ok, we are ALL high-maintenance sometimes.
  6. Notice your body. Take 10 second breaks, waiting on the jetway at the airport, on the beach, at the top of a mountain, wherever, and just like you would on your mat....notice what you are feeling in your body. No judgment, just notice. It will help you keep your body/mind connection, and help you stay grounded.
  7. Take a vacation at home instead of away. If you find destination vacations stressful for any of the reasons above, FORGIVE YOURSELF, you are human! Vacations can be anywhere, anytime. So take a weekend or a week at home, unplug, buy tasty foods, exercise or not, practice yoga or not, do what is enjoyable and EASY for YOU. It's ok, you don't have to go anywhere to take a reprieve from everyday life. Just like in savasana, vacations are intended to give our minds and our bodies a BREAK, not to cause excess stress...so whatever enables this for you is your vacation.
Happy vacations.

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Provocative Review of Yoga in America

I am pleased to share a new review of Yoga in America from Rosanne Harvey's it's all yoga, baby blog.

This review is not 100% glowing. Being the human that I am, my first reaction was to get a lump in my throat, then I wanted to hide under a rock and pretend I'd never published the book, next I wanted to lash out and disprove her criticism....Finally, my perspective (and brain) kicked in.

I realized that as I fixated on the critical aspects of the review, I was not only ignoring, but discounting the remainder (and majority) of what Rosanne has eloquently and thoughtfully written.

So in the spirit of the Niyama called Svadhyaya (or self-study) I noticed that my response to this review is nearly identical to how I've felt since I was a child when criticized. I don't like being criticized , I'm not inspired by it. So consequently, I've spent a lifetime avoiding situations where I might receive public criticism (for instance, avoiding getting a PhD where I'd have to publicly defend a dissertation, not running for elected positions in school or professional life).

It's only recently, since I started a business, writing, blogging that I've (reluctantly) faced my fear of public criticism. And I've had my share! Criticism from customers, business associates, and now from another author. But here's the crazy thing...I'm still ok. I haven't melted or withered away, nor have I stopped working or writing. And if I really think about it, I've learned something from each and every bit of criticism - even when I haven't agreed with it.

I think what has happened is that I've become more comfortable with the discomfort of people disagreeing with me. And I use my yoga to remind myself that the discomfort will pass. And amazingly, it passes.

So I thank Rosanne for her beautiful piece about my book. I happen to agree with her criticism and I'm grateful that I'll be able to apply what I've learned from her in my next book. Thank you, Rosanne for being part of my practice and evolution as a human.

Namaste.

Read Rosanne's Review
and be sure to check out the rest of her blog!

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I am not superwoman.

I am not superwoman. And that’s ok by me.

I grew up feeling like a lonely throwback to a different time, probably the 50s. My work ethic was formed in an era of woman’s rights, with glass confetti from the shattered ceilings of female professionals falling all around me. But my personal ethic and views on parenthood felt alien.

As children of the 70’s, we were told that we could have it all…kids, husbands, careers, health, hobbies, happiness, spirituality, education, wealth, friends, vacations, nice cars, networks, clubs, philanthropy, ahhh, it tires me just writing all of these things in one sentence.

How am I supposed to pack this all into my daily life? Well, after turning 38 a few days ago, it finally dawned on me. I am NOT going to have it all. At least not all of the above.

I spent a few sad hours this weekend lamenting not having kids and feeling overwhelmed by the responsibilities of our retreat center, the full-time IT consulting project I just took on to help pay the mortgage of the retreat center, our recent downsizing to a condo from a house, and the wedding I still haven’t started to plan after a 14 month engagement.

But then I saw things in a different way. Scott and I were strolling around the Boston Waterfront at our own pace, without any bookends to our day. I was present. I felt happy, I felt loved….and I so didn’t want one extra drop of responsibility on my already weary shoulders. The mothers pushing strollers all around us all looked frazzled and tired. I didn’t envy them. Rather, seeing the crying kids caused me to feel grateful at that moment, not to have the boo-boos and tears on my docket.

Motherhood has always seemed to me like the hardest, most unrelenting, rewarding and fulfilling responsibility imaginable. And until recent years, I assumed that “some day” I would be a mother. But somehow, either by following the path of least resistance, unconscious design or the speed of life, I’m not (yet?) a mother.

I’ve always believed being a mother commands undivided attention at every moment and Attention overall. To me this means if I am to be a mother, I need to be present. My mind can’t be cluttered all the time with work to-dos, teaching ideas, new book ideas, recipes, blog posts, financial stress, and all the rest of my current life. I know women who seem to be able to do this, even thrive on juggling kids, jobs, and everything that comes with both. But I don’t have the energy and I know I’ll short change, Scott, our someday-child and my well-being by trying add a child to our already complicated lives. I am not superwoman. I have too much on my plate right now and I want to unload some before we even think about adding a baby.

It’s scary that as each day passes, the statistical functionality of my fertility decreases. But for me, it’s scarier to have competing demands of a job, business and baby. The first two will have to nearly disappear before I will have the attention and energy for the third.

Suddenly, I am no longer afraid to say, I can’t do it all. Or maybe my yoga practice has helped me become more aware of my limits. Whatever it is, I know I can't do it all, but I can be in this moment and live in this moment, superwoman or not.

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Keep Sane on Your Family Vacation with 3 Yoga Moves

Here's a link to an article that I wrote, published on BestEverYou.com about including yoga on your family vacation (is this really possible??)

Hope you're enjoying your summer!


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