Here are some words and phrases that can easily foster negativity, annoyance and put people on the defensive.
20 Common Phases to Avoid:
- You should
- I hate it when you
- You always
- I wish I had
- Ought
- Wish
- Should
- You think
- You never
- I agree, but
- I love you, but
- Never
- Always
- If you'd just
- If only I had
- Could you just
- Well, yeah, but
- Don't feel bad/sad/guilty/mad
- It's just that I
- Don't you think you should
5 Comments:
instead of telling the person "you should" say "please-------"
Yes, Susane! Saying "please" would eliminate a lot of fighting in te world. :-)
I have a friend who completely eliminated the word "but" from his vocab. It made me think about when I use the word, and it is almost always harmful. So I try to replace it with "and".
To use one of your examples, "I love you, and..." has a different message, doesn't it?
Erika, that's great....replace "but" with "and"
Words are just semantics. The meaning and purpose behind the words are what need attention.
I have received saccharine comments knowing that wasps lurk behind all that sweetness.
Speak bluntly and honestly.
Cheers,
John
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